Five Seconds

Here’s one technique that author J. Rose mentioned in a panel last week: Mel Robbins’s Five-Second Rule. I watched a brief clip of Mel Robbins explaining it, and then I watched this guy, and I think he did a better job. Well, he kept it short, sweet, and to the point, which is what I need right now. I rolled my eyes at Mel and her parenting analogy, but a simple countdown I am willing to try. I still question the brain science supposedly at work, but it doesn’t seem like I will come to harm if I give it a shot.


I know, I know, it’s only been 8 hours, but I really think I gave this an honest go. And my brain is having none of it. In the span of a single second, my brain can present six different (and often opposing) ideas, sift through them, file away anything of interest for future reference, and discard the rest. It continues to do this while I’m counting down five seconds. When I get to “Go!” my brain has completely moved on and says, “Okay, whatcha got now?” So this technique, while appealing, is of no use to me.

Mind you, I’m not saying it’s garbage. I’m just saying that it and my brain are not compatible. I suspect my brain is not compatible with a lot of things. I mean, I recently learned that relaxation-induced anxiety is an actual thing, and that explains sooooo much. Like why meditation stresses me out.

Sorry, Five-Second Rule, it’s not you, it’s me.


Yes, I’m Still Here

And I’m still dithering about what to do with my virtual identities. I have started using the blog feature on Goodreads, and while it is limited, there are certain types of posts (the ones with lots of links to books) that it does very well. So I may just start dividing my blogging between there and here, since the here part has already been here for quite some time and it finds its way to there. At least that’s the plan for now. I may change my mind again once I decide where to plunk down my new domain. I was thinking WordPress, but now I don’t know. I may have to give up on the delusion that I am smart enough to run a decent WP site.

In the meantime, I have stuff to talk about. Like MALCon and Westercon, which I attended this past week. (Yes, at the same time. MALCon hosted Westercon. I’m not sure how exactly that came about. I have conjectures, but nothing I care to share, seeing as how I’m not in a position to actually know anything. And I’m a writer, so my conjectures can be wildly inaccurate, if entertaining.) In the past I’ve made attempts at blogging about cons, and I’ve never made it very far. Perhaps I was trying to cram too much into a summary format. And I’m sure nobody needs a play-by-play account of my con experience. So this time I’m going to try doing a series of daily-ish posts with each one focusing on some particular thing that caught my attention.

Later today I will post about some coping techniques that were mentioned in a few panels.